Newsletter: No 09

Last week's newsletter I talked about asking as a way of self care. The other part of self care is the ability to just say no. That's right, say it with me, "NO".

Many people, especially women have a horrible time with this form of self care. The word no might make you squirm or feel uncomfortable. If you're one of the lucky ones who has NO problem saying it, congratulations.

For the rest of us the word no is very loaded. There are so many feelings attached to it. Feelings of guilt, not being nice, or polite, rejection and the list goes on and on.

I want you to consider the word no when used properly as a form of extreme self care. Think of it this way, if you ask someone for help and they say yes but you can feel that they really don't want to, how does that make you feel? I personally cringe because I can feel the low energy of their yes. It doesn't feel like giving, it feels like obligation. But when they say yes from a place of pure joy and the desire to actually do it, it feels like a beautiful gift. They and I feel like we're perfectly aligned.

Your saying no if you don't want to do something is a gift to yourself and the other person. You are in alignment with your highest self. Saying yes when you're low energy or really don't feel like it will be felt by the other. By saying no you also put yourself first on the priority list of self care. It doesn't make sense doing something half way without any energy or real desire.

I promise you they will survive your no's and will respect and learn to do the same for themselves. If you have children, this is a good lesson to teach. Being in alignment creates an ease to life. Being out of alignment creates chaos and problems.

Just say NO, if that feels right.

With hugs

Mona